Most times I avoid asking people questions about how they feel or what could be wrong. I seldomly ask when I obviously must. For instance, I have listened to someone expressing his/her feelings for some minutes and still cannot figure out the reason for any irrational feelings displayed.
It is common knowledge that human needs are insatiable. We spend a significant part of our time chasing our needs and forgetting to appreciate what we have. Some ask for what they already have because they believe it is not significant enough to be marked as an accomplishment. I believe it is important to share this life-changing event with you.
In a delivery ward, a woman was brought in with her newborn, exhausted and in mixed feelings, she said to her husband, “my boy is too tiny, I wish he had weighed more pounds”. After a while, a nurse walked in with a couple to admit the wife as instructed by the gynecologist. She was very silent and felt apprehensive about moving around. She called out for her husband too frequently to assist with almost everything. He was willing to do anything possible as if that could change his wife’s situation. People often say that the hardest challenge a man can go through is to see his wife in pain and not able to do anything about it. She brought silence to the room, and it seemed like the break of that silence will cause a devastating effect on her. Luckily, the babies were deep asleep. Suddenly, we heard a loud cry from the bathroom, it was the taciturn woman speaking aloud this time, “who have I offended?”, “why is it difficult to have what I want?”, “All I wanted was just to use the bathroom”. She grieved for the loss of her unborn child. Mothers around were confused as to what to say, unconsciously, they all held their children close and murmured words of appreciation.
I thought I have had enough for the day, I got up to take my leave, as I approached the corridor I was obstructed by a gathering of a few doctors where an obstetrician briefed them on an event that just occurred. I heard her say, “everything appears to be fine as I gave her the child. When I reached out to clean her up, then I realized she had died holding her child to her chest. I am still in shock because it was a successful delivery, nothing went wrong. This is unbelievable!” I did not know when tears rolled down my face, I got into the car, and drove home quietly.
The insight and experience of others are valuable sources of inspiration and motivation. “If you look at what you have in life, you will always have more. If you look at what you do not have in life, you will never have enough” – Oprah Winfrey. “Showing gratitude is one of the most powerful ways to create abundance. Giving thanks is one of the most beautiful ways to appreciate life” – Debasish Mridha.
Life is not guaranteed, let us live like it is our last.