Kolade Adetoro Written by Kolade Adetoro · 2 min read >

Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm. Whether the threat is real or imagined. Fear I believe is a state of mind, it is your perception of a situation. While a certain person may react to some occurrence fearfully, some others in the same situation might see it as a random event and would not take it so seriously. One thing to note is, it is okay to be fearful but letting that emotion reside in you is dangerous because it lays a hold on you and finds a way to affect every area of your life. It is then more difficult to treat because it is an emotional trauma.

You sometimes forget the root cause of your fears due to how deep it has spread into several areas of your life.  Literally everyone has one thing or the other they are scared of but we all have different ways we respond to it. Therefore, training your mind is a possible solution to respond to this emotion that creeps into your head like a thief in the night.

 How then can this be done? 

 1) Find the root cause of your fears: this means identifying what triggers you to becoming fearful. This can take alot of time to figure out because it might be an occurrence from years back which was not properly handled. Once situations are not thoroughly dealt with, they come around again and again in disguise to taunt you.

2) Find out a possible solution to your fears: It is impossible to improve what you are not aware about. So, after you have identified the root cause of your fears, you need to find a possible solution next. This means researching how people in similar situations have handled it, weighing options, considering the effects and being courageous to take action are important so as to see result.

3) Measure results: After you have tried some solutions in facing your problems, you need to examine how much progress you are making or not. This tells you whether or not the decisions you made have any effects. If you notice positive improvements from your analysis then this a good thing. You should keep at what you’re doing and find way to do some more and if otherwise, do not be hard on yourself. You should just find some alternate measures to follow in other to achieve your set goal.

4) Take Action: When you have taken action to face the fears you have, you need to step out of your comfort zone by doing what you would not do or as the case may be desisting from what you do (if you are trying to stop a habit).

5) Be Accountable: Accountability keeps us focus so as not to fall off track. Having someone you are accountable to while taking these steps is quite important because they motivate you to keep going on the days you want to give up and also encourage you when you do good work.

6) Help others in similar situations: I personally believe when you teach some other person something you know, you know it better because it begins to sink into your subconscious and you do it effortlessly with time. So, the more people you teach, the better you are helping yourself.

7) Live and be happy: Celebrate the progress you have made. The duration for these steps would vary from individual to individual. You should be happy you stayed dedicated to a course and succeeded at it. Times would come when you might be falling back into your fears but don’t be afraid, you have everything in you to conquer it again. When situations come up in another form, keep calm and apply these same steps.

I believe fear can either motivate us or destroy us. It all depends on how we deal with the emotion. It is totally okay to feel fearful and seeking help is the best way to deal with it before it takes a hold of you.

Written by Kolade Adetoro
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