Chika Laju-okorodudu Written by Chika Laju-okorodudu · 2 min read >

The emotion of anger. Emotional intelligence classes were quite insightful as they enlightened me greatly on the need to understand both our emotions and those that we interact with in order to manage and live with people we come across in life without strife. The emotion of anger and how to manage is was one thing I learnt.

There are several emotions that everyone exhibits both consciously and unconsciously. One of these dominant emotions is Anger.

Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism towards someone or something that you feel has done you wrong. It is always inferred that anger can motivate you to find solutions to a problem and it can be a positive emotion when it helps you work through issues or problems. However, excessive anger can cause a lot of problems if not properly managed. anger can become problematic if it leads to aggression, outbursts, or even physical damage and assault.

 Many things can trigger anger like stress, family problems, or financial issue. Although research shows that for some people, anger is caused by an underlying disorder such as depression or bipolar disorder. Alcohol and the use of hard drugs could also instigate excessive emotions of anger in one that indulges in any of them.

Anger control is important for helping you avoid saying or doing something you may regret. As a manager,  there is always a tendency for people to step on your toes either deliberately or not. Therefore, you need to adapt some of these strategies to manage and control anger before it escalates. Some of them are:

  1. Count down

Count down (or up) to 10. If you’re really mad, start at 100. In the time it takes you to count, your heart rate will slow, and your anger will likely subside.

2 . Go walk around

This can help calm your nerves and reduce anger. Go for a walk, ride your bike, or hit a few golf balls. Anything that gets your limbs pumping is good for your mind and body.

3.  Mental escape

Slip into a quiet room, close your eyes, and practice visualizing yourself in a relaxing scene. This practice can help you find calm amidst anger.

4. Stop talking

When you are steamed, you may be tempted to let the angry words fly, but you are more likely to do harm than good.  This moment without speaking will give you time to collect your thoughts.

5. Take a timeout

Give yourself a break. Sit away from others. In this quiet time, you can process events and return your emotions to a neutral state.

6. Find the most immediate solution

Example: You might be angry at a colleague for always coming late to work. You can temporarily end your anger by suggesting he moves into the staff quarters closer to the office if there is one. Look for similar resolutions in any situation.Top of Form

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7. Forgiveness.  Finding the courage to forgive someone who has wronged you takes a lot of emotional skill. If you can not go that far, you can at least pretend that you are forgiving them, and you will feel your anger slip away.

10.  Express your anger

It is OK to say how you feel, as long as you handle it in the right way. Ask a trusted friend to help you be accountable for a calm response. Outbursts solve no problems, but mature dialogue can help reduce your stress and ease your anger. It may also prevent future problems.

In conclusion, we can all attest to the fact that anger is an emotion that surfaces seldomly when dealing with people but before your anger turns to aggression or outbursts, you need to adopt one of these healthy ways to deal with anger.

Written by Chika Laju-okorodudu
I am a Lawyer with a working experience in Human Resource Management. I love to explore and try new things... Profile

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