Balance of Priorities

“The greatest reflection of your priorities is your TIME. Whatever you say about what matters to you, the truest test is where you place your TIME.” Nick Crocker

My 11-year-old son, walked over to where I was sitting, trying to juggle office work, complete my reading on an Analysis of Business Problem case study, treat my bad flu and cough and also support his sister with completing her homework.  He asked me a question which made me think long and hard – “Mum, why must you go back to school? You are already way too busy with office work. Not sure you will find time to spend with us anymore.”

My decision to undertake an MBA was not a taken lightly.  I had been procrastinating for years. Finally, last year, I discussed the topic several times with my husband (my greatest support system), my mentors and my line manage at work.  The choice to come to the Lagos Business School (LBS) for a 2-year time programme was a collective effort.  However, It downed on me that I really did not carry my children along in the decision making process.  I had assumed they would understand.  Now, six weeks into the programme, there is a pushback. My son was right! I had not taken them out on our usual Sunday outings in the last few weeks – I was always too tired and also wanted to get ready for the week.  Even though I had reached firm agreements on how to manage the home-front with my spouse, I realised in was falling short on some “must-dos.”

Later that evening, I sat with my children, apologized profusely for not including them in my decision-making process and we had a mother-children discussion until we reached a compromise.  I had clearly not identified all the stakeholders that would be impacted by my change in routine. Of course, his sister also had a long list of what she wanted. We finally disagreed to agree. In reaching the compromise with them, it would require me reallocating some time during the week to keep my side of the bargain. 

While I know the MBA programme will project me positively on my future career trajectory, finetuning all aspects of my life is important to enjoy the future benefits I garner from the MBA.  I need to wake up daily, and before I jump into the rush for the day, use a clear head to confirm I am prioritizing what is important per day and check how much time I am allocating to each priority.  I want to complete this MBA knowing I had not just made the decision for my selfish self, but also for those I care deeply about.

Have you been able to work out a priority schedule? What criteria did you use? Is it working or are you adjusting it daily or weekly? Do should share your thoughts.  You never know who picks a learning or two from it.

“Nobody’s life is ever balanced. It’s a conscious decision to choose your priorities everyday” Elisabeth Hasselbeck

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