One of the biggest problems i have seen in societies and human relation is the acceptance of trade offs (the downside of something). its as if people are trying to force their wishes into reality. but, what examples can best explain this?
Have you ever seen a guy who wants a cultured or religious lady who adheres to her parents rules to keep late nights with him? if so, now think of it like this: you can not go to a zoo and say you want to see a full grown male lion that weighs 50kg or less . you can actually ask that considering freedom of speech but you most likely would not get a positive response from the zoo keeper. why? because a full grown male lion weighs between 200kg and 250kg so it simply does not have it in its package. Now going back to the case of a guy who wants a good girl to keep late nights with him, the same problem is raised: a good girl who keeps to her parents rules does not have the the mind to late outside her home. Lets take another scenario. Imagine a very honest man in a company that someone started a friendship with, it would be wise to expect the person to be honest at all times irrespective of the situation so it becomes unwise to want him to do somethings like lie to the board of directors for you. Now imagine you are a reserved person and a close friend of yours wants to throw a party and says he wants a friend to be the host and he choose you, you would question his decision because you are not that kind of people everyday maybe you can switch for a moment but that certainly is not your everyday behavior. everyone can act whether badly or amazingly but no one can keep up an act forever. At this point i know it seems like we are just going in circles but stay with me for the next 5 lines and it gets crystal clear why this is important to you.
In life you can not give what you do not have, what do i mean? you can not do something outside your character for too long so you should beware of relationships where a part of you that seems like an act to you is required day in day out. so playing a role for a moment can be a beautiful thing doing it for long is dangerous to the mind. it can be draining and ultimately confusing because it does not foster growth, rather it stalls growth. imagine a young child told to swim all day, that child will not be a better swimmer than a fish but more importantly, the child will not learn with his peers how to walk or run or whatever people like him are improving in their lives. There is something i say ; ‘know thyself and act according’ it simply means know nature and the ups and downs that come with it. this brings me back to the topic point of view which looks at the person demanding something different from the nature of someone.
II will finish with Albert Einstein’s quote “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” and this is my reality of choice: if you have picked a fish, do not expect the fish to climb trees. Do not expect a school drop out to act so formal with teachers or a graduate of an MBA to be so informal with things that concern cooperate governance and managements. do not expect someone who to exhibit something outside their nature, scope, level, or behavior’s Because everyone is is useful but not in everything so learn to accept the constraints of your decisions in life and work with it.
The Perils of Omniscience: When Company Managers Refuse to Listen.