My Three Father’s

I like to say I have three fathers. Fathers that each positively affect the different parts of my life, my person. Just as a person is made up of a body, soul and spirit, my three fathers influence my looks, my soul and thought processes and then my Spirit. They play different yet uniques roles which have formed a major part of my personality and to say I met them at different points of my life, the times when I needed helps the most, is important.

It of course doesn’t translate to having three biological fathers as I can only have one. My looks and physical embodiment mirrors that of my biological father which I am grateful for. My biological father’s love and support has helped me thus far. Growing through childhood and seeing that a man would risk all and work diligently to see me happy reassured me about getting the right kind of helps I would need in life. My values have been shaped by the pictures of resilience I picked from my biological and first father.

My mind, soul and intellect as anyone may wish to call them are rather influenced by my mentor, another father who has been instrumental in seeing that I grow and in grooming me to be achieve all my dreams. I refer to him as my second father seeing that he guides and instructs me on what practical career and academic paths to take. My second dad’s investment is a bud of faith and a seed of hope to me. To raise a child who isn’t physically yours is quite a task that requires compassion, warmth and your resources but my second dad stops at nothing to see that I am and will be well raised. One would think I am his biological daughter. I learn my money principles from here.

My third father provides me spiritual guidance, leadership and connects me with the divine God in heaven. His words as well reinforce faith, hope and love in me. The words and encouragement from him puts strength on my feet to take on challenges and tow new paths. Moments of listening and sitting under him are moments that reassure the place of help to me. Moments with him are eureka moments that unlock new ideas and innovations in me. If anything, my third dad is well read and nudges me to read often. As he often says, “In a world of mediocrity, a little diligence and excellence would put you ahead and give you an edge”.

Every successful human is a product of helps and I believe my second and third fathers provide this help to me. Saying there are self made humans is a sentence I have never come to terms with. We are a product of helps, mentorship, training, prayers, love and care.

I am not completely a picture of the success I desire to embody yet, however, this is me recognising these persons and the roles they play in my life. I look forward to making them proud.