I cannot do it… This is difficult…. How can I cope with all the pressure that goes with it. All these are the common vibes that comes with either taking up a new challenge or sometimes pursuing a new career goal or even the MBA programme. These are familiar responses from people.
My question is “Do you underestimate yourself? It prevents people from pursuing or progressing in their goals and purposes in life. Sometimes it comes with low self-esteem, self-assurance, low confidence of I can do it or let me give it a trial and so many other reasons.
It will be go to examine how someone with such an attitude usually underestimates themselves. It is usually advisable to encourage anyone with such an attitude to try to fix it. Never live your life, always underestimating yourself. For those who underestimate themselves I will refer them to this quote.
“There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy”
-Robert Louis Stevenson-
Such People reject compliments.
It may be because of modesty that you may be rejecting compliments and characterizing treats. But the truth is that the act of modesty can be a sign of underestimation. Its minor phrases, like “it’s nothing,” “it’s not that great,” or “I don’t care” may indicate a real problem.
It is right to think about the consequences when we underestimate oneself. And it is right to Accept compliments that people give you out of good faith, because if they are complimenting you, it is because you deserve it. Believe it!
Stop referring to the opinions of others.
If you are someone who underestimates themselves, your manner of speaking is probably characterised by always referring to what other people have done or said. An instance is: “my wife/husband/parents/spouse says…”, “my lecturer said that…” This indicates a lack of security in what you are saying.
It is also important to support your own opinions with others: “ask so and so if you don’t believe me,” “isn’t that right, Babajide?” Things like that make us very vulnerable and insecure.
Right if you avoid thinking of yourself first.
Ask yourself when was the last time you last gave yourself a treat? People who underestimate themselves tend to think that they cannot afford themselves certain liberties such as indulging in something simply because they like it. But why not give a treat to yourself?
Do you have to do everything for everyone else? – you also deserve nice things for your own happiness and comfort! You should allow yourself time to put importance on what you deserve first. Just once! Why not give it a try. It is not selfish; it is simply just loving yourself.
Why do you think others see you negatively?
It is high time you stopped thinking that those people laughing are laughing at you. When someone asking you out immediately provokes the nasty little thought that “this won’t last long, when they get to know me, they’ll run away.” Why do you perceive a sincere compliment as an act of charity, if something that someone says to you in other not to make you feel bad about yourself. Get out of that shadow of negativity and brace yourself with positivity.
Don’t you think that you are unique?
We have this kind of thought and behavior of people who underestimate themselves by believing that they are not unique. For instance, someone who underestimates themselves will think that people who ask them out or give them a nice gift do it for everyone. They will think, “I am nothing special.”
“It all starts like this,” “I am not the only one,” “the others are better.” “They can speak and write better than me.” “I cannot stand them, and they are above my class” These thoughts are very common. It is a clear sign of insecurity. One must believe in oneself . One is unique whether we believe it! Because no two people are the same. So never think that people treat you like just one more, because if so and you don’t like it, stay away!
If you discover that you are affected by this thought or as someone who underestimates themselves, it is urgent for you to act now or fix it.
Believe me – nothing is difficult if we fail to put our heart into it. My advise is usually that- IMPOSSIBILITY IS IN THE MIND OF THE WEAK MINDED.
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