Parenting and parenting styles

As a parent myself, I have concluded that parenting is not an easy job, you need to be very attentive, vigilant, and approachable to be able to say that you are a good parent.

Parenting for different generation

Thinking through the differences between parenting during our grandparent’s time, during our own time, and modern-day parenting is amazing.

My mum used to say “during our time, you dare not speak up when your parents are speaking”

During our own time, we even had the chance to discuss with our parents- this was a privilege for those of us who had educated parents.

This time around with our children, parenting has taken another turn.

Your children will challenge you…you hear things like “that book is private, mum, you can’t just go through them. Mum, I need my privacy.

Types of Parenting Styles

Authoritative Parenting

Authoritative parenting can be described as the just-right style. This style; combines moderate demands on the child with moderate parental attentiveness. Positive reinforcement and occasional punishment are the strategies used by authoritative parents. Parents foster the growth of a child’s autonomy within reasonable bounds and are more conscious of a child’s feelings and talents. Parent-child communication involves a give-and-take dynamic in which support and control are equally distributed. This parenting approach is preferable to others. The children from this home do better in terms of competence, mental health, and social development.

Authoritarian Parenting

No nonsense strict and rigid parents with high demands from the child, you must do this and do it this way. Authoritarian parents have a non-negotiable set of expectations and regulations that are firmly adhered to. If the child breaks the rule, he or she is in trouble for breaking a rule, and punishment (spanking) is frequently used.

This kind of parenting is more prevalent in working-class households than in the middle class, as seen by the common response to a child’s query of authority, “because I said so” or “because I am your father”

Permissive parenting

In this style of parenting, the child’s freedom and autonomy are highly valued, and parents rely primarily on reasoning and explanation. Parents are undemanding, and thus there tends to be little if any punishment or explicit rules in this parenting style. These parents say that their children are free and tend to b

highly responsive and therefore provide the child everything they want. Children of permissive parents are happy but sometimes show low levels of self-control and self-reliance because they lack structure at home.

Uninvolved Parenting

In this style of parenting, the parents are either physically or emotionally absent. No communication and no expectations from the child. The parents neglect the child and are uninvolved in the child’s life. They have little to no behavioral expectations and are unresponsive to a child’s needs. They might provide the child with everything they need to survive with little to no involvement. There is frequently a wide distance between parents and their children. These children are more likely to be bullied by other kids and engage in antisocial conduct themselves.

Intrusive parenting

Intrusive parenting involves “controlling and inhibiting the thoughts, feelings, and emotional expression of teenagers through the use of love withdrawal, guilt induction, and coercive techniques.” It may interfere with the period of development and growth for adolescents. Due to their “lack of assertiveness, avoidance of conflict, desire to please others, and low self-esteem,” children and teenagers are vulnerable.

To parents and leaders alike

There is a need for serious self-examination, we should be able to pinpoint our style of parenting which can be related to our leadership style in the workplace. You need to direct, support, and delegate to your team members to build their confidence, so they become better leaders.